So, hello Philippines. You’re dusty, hot, noisy, busy,
crowded and always trying to interest me in a bargain.
And yet right now I’m sitting in a clean, cool room at the
Birthing Home trying to collect my thoughts after two days since landing. It’s
been a whirlwind already, so much contrast between our quiet little life in New
Zealand and the hustle and bustle of metro Philippines.
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The women here are so beautiful, humble and reserved. They
birth quietly, trusting in their bodies and have wonderful physical support
from their partners. They arrive for antenatal checkups in twos and threes,
some with their partners, some without; walking or perched on the back of a
motorbike. It’s hot and humid from early morning here, and everyone looks for a
place beside the fan that is central in the lounge room.
I attended my first birth this morning, in an observational
role – before we can be ‘hands on’ we must witness several births conducted by either
the midwives or the more experienced interns. This birth is not as easy as the
others of the past few days – two women arrived fully dilated and only just
made it the birthing room before their babies slipped out easily. This mother
spends several hours almost fully dilated, trying different positions to help
the last piece of cervix dilate past the baby’s head. This swollen cervix just
won’t budge but eventually the women can’t resist pushing and her new baby boy is
born. After the birth, while baby is tucked up in bed with mum, the father
quietly clears the stained newspapers that cover the floor under the birthing
stool, and mops the floor with bleach. I’m busy writing up the birth notes when
a quiet “please... excuse me” prompts me to lift me feet up from the floor as
the father swishes the last bit of water in my corner of the room. He tucks
back up beside his wife and new baby – his bright white smile cutting cherry
path through his dark skin. He is clearly tired but proud of his wife as she
latches baby on to suckle for the first time...
* * * * *
Sleeping has been a struggle for me – its pretty hot over
night and there is constant noise with stray dogs, chickens, cats making their way
up and down the staircase that is just outside the window of our basement
rooms. Beyond the staircase is TLC – The Little Children’s home. Every now and
then little faces peer out towards us, occasionally calling out for attention.
The noise from TLC starts early morning as the babies wake for the day, and it’s
hard to sleep through their occasional early morning tears. We visited there for the first
time tonight, it was heartbreaking to be in an orphanage and see all these little
faces waiting for a ‘forever home’, but at the same time, wonderful to see the
amazing work the founders and staff do for these unwanted children. Even this
morning, a wee, unnamed boy was left at the home – a tiny, malnourished little
soul, probably only a few weeks old at best. We stayed and cuddled little people
for half an hour and felt such sorrow when we left...
Sarah, you write so beautifully. I'm so glad you're blogging about your experiences. It's wonderful for us to hear how life and birth is in the Philippines, and, many months later, you will value having written everything down. I hope you can soon get used to the noise and start getting some good sleep. xxx
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